According to National Family violence Surveys over 90 percent of parents use some forms of punishment that involves inflicting physical pain when discipline their children. The question Should parents spank their children; is a very controversial question. Some parents beleive it is ok. to spank their children. Others think children should never be spanked. As adults we all know that all children misbehave at some time. It is our responsibility to find out what appropiate behavior is and where the limits are.One of the most important part to succed with our children is to have a clear meanning of Discipline. It is helping a child develop self control and a sense of limits. To experience the consequences of her/his behavior, and learn from his/her mistakes. Is very clear that Discipline does not mean punishment or conflict between parent and child. Here some advise to succed with our children's behavior. Rewards, positive reinforcement is the best technique for encouraging wanted behavior. Rewards are not bribes; they are ways to show a child that she /he is doing a good job. No more no - keep it positive, Both parents and children get tired of hearing "no" all the time. Too many no's lose their meaning and do not help a child learn what will get her/his "yes". Positive statement teach children what is appropiate. Don't dictate: negotiate , negotiation does not mean that parents or children get their way. Negotiation, when done with sensitive, makes everyone feel part of the solution to a problem. Every body like to feel they have a choice rather than they are being forced into something.
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Hey, I completly agree with this post 100%. I feel as if spanking isnt the only way to disipline a child. If you are able to gain respect from your child by making them learn their lesson, rather then them being scared of you, thats the best thing. Children will misbehave and make mistakes but the role of parenting is to teach them right and wrong not scare them and hurt them.
ReplyDeleteI agree that one should spank their child if they misbehave but that shouldnt be the only way. Parent should talk to their child, if the parent hits them that only provokes the child to misbehave even more.
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